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Bad Habit #1: Watching TV during dinner.
Why it's bad: Having dinner together offers valuable face time with your
partner. Turning on the tube competes for attention and cuts in on your
time
to catch up and connect after so many hours spent apart.
How to stop: Set aside 30 to 45 minutes of one-on-one talk time with the TV
off every night. This shows your spouse that when you're not at work,
you're
devoted to your home and family. During this time, ignore your phone and
leave the Blackberry in another room. You'll feel closer within days.
Bad Habit #2: Going too long without sex.
Why it's bad: If the amount of sex you're used to having starts to slide,
your body and brain can get used to the decreased intimacy, causing you to
go even longer without wanting that closeness.
How to stop: Don't wait until you feel like doing it. Initiate sex when
you're open to doing it, rather than when you have the desire. This will
jumpstart your feelings so you'll crave it more often.
Bad Habit #3: Going a whole workday without talking to your sweetheart.
Why it's bad: You'll start growing apart emotionally after subconsciously
feeling like the other person doesn't think about you (and your needs)
during the day.
How to stop: Initiate daily contact by sending a quick "How's your day?"
email. And make the effort to do something nice every day (pick up his fave
dessert, call from the store to see if she needs something). It shows
forethought and consideration for your partner's needs.
Bad Habit #4: Tuning each other out.
Why it's bad: You're disengaging from each other.
How to stop: Make an effort to do small things such as kissing before
saying
goodbye, making eye contact when talking, complimenting each other
frequently throughout the week. Does he not seem to hear you talking during
certain times (ahem, when ESPN is on)? Don't try to make conversation while
the TV is on. If it's important, press mute; otherwise, save conversations
for dinner or your bedroom, where you're less likely to be interrupted.
Bad Habit #5: Not fighting.
Why it's bad: Disagreements are good in a marriage because you're
expressing
your individuality. Talking about issues when they first happen makes them
easier to fix than if you wait until after they've festered.
How to stop: Bring up what's on your mind in a way that shows your
admiration and respect for each other's thoughts and feelings. Like, "It
hurts my feelings when _________. I was hoping we could figure out a new
way
to handle the situation together." This will set the tone of the
conversation as loving and calm, but you both have to compromise to keep it
that way.
Bad Habit #6: Going out more with friends than with your spouse.
Why it's bad: Sends the message that your friends are more worthy of your
time.
How to stop: Schedule nights out with your crew a few times a month, but
make sure to let your partner know in advance. It's important to have these
friendships, just as long as they don't make your married time sparse. And
it's always best that these friends are people your partner knows and
trusts, so there's less reason to worry.
Bad Habit #7: Being too close.
Why it's bad: As much as you think burping, scratching, picking, or farting
is funny or cute, it can backfire and cross the line. It may be a
reflection
of your closeness, but there should be a limit. Otherwise, you're leaving
your partner with a very unsexy image of you.
How to stop: Start a new rule. If you wouldn't do it in front of your work
friends, don't do it in front of your honey. To get your mate to refrain,
say: "I know we're close, and we can share everything, but I'd really
appreciate it if you would leave the room, or leave me out, when you do
that. It's not very sexy, and I don't want anything that makes you less
sexy
to me."
Bad Habit #8: Sharing too much with your parents or in-laws.
Why it's bad: This shows a lack of loyalty to your spouse. Your parents
shouldn't have any information that your spouse doesn't have. And they
shouldn't know anything he wouldn't want them to know.
How to stop: Be loyal to your spouse even when he's not present. If you
wouldn't say something in front of him/her, don't say it at all. You would
Bad Habit #1: Watching TV during dinner.
Why it's bad: Having dinner together offers valuable face time with your
partner. Turning on the tube competes for attention and cuts in on your
time
to catch up and connect after so many hours spent apart.
How to stop: Set aside 30 to 45 minutes of one-on-one talk time with the TV
off every night. This shows your spouse that when you're not at work,
you're
devoted to your home and family. During this time, ignore your phone and
leave the Blackberry in another room. You'll feel closer within days.
Bad Habit #2: Going too long without sex.
Why it's bad: If the amount of sex you're used to having starts to slide,
your body and brain can get used to the decreased intimacy, causing you to
go even longer without wanting that closeness.
How to stop: Don't wait until you feel like doing it. Initiate sex when
you're open to doing it, rather than when you have the desire. This will
jumpstart your feelings so you'll crave it more often.
Bad Habit #3: Going a whole workday without talking to your sweetheart.
Why it's bad: You'll start growing apart emotionally after subconsciously
feeling like the other person doesn't think about you (and your needs)
during the day.
How to stop: Initiate daily contact by sending a quick "How's your day?"
email. And make the effort to do something nice every day (pick up his fave
dessert, call from the store to see if she needs something). It shows
forethought and consideration for your partner's needs.
Bad Habit #4: Tuning each other out.
Why it's bad: You're disengaging from each other.
How to stop: Make an effort to do small things such as kissing before
saying
goodbye, making eye contact when talking, complimenting each other
frequently throughout the week. Does he not seem to hear you talking during
certain times (ahem, when ESPN is on)? Don't try to make conversation while
the TV is on. If it's important, press mute; otherwise, save conversations
for dinner or your bedroom, where you're less likely to be interrupted.
Bad Habit #5: Not fighting.
Why it's bad: Disagreements are good in a marriage because you're
expressing
your individuality. Talking about issues when they first happen makes them
easier to fix than if you wait until after they've festered.
How to stop: Bring up what's on your mind in a way that shows your
admiration and respect for each other's thoughts and feelings. Like, "It
hurts my feelings when _________. I was hoping we could figure out a new
way
to handle the situation together." This will set the tone of the
conversation as loving and calm, but you both have to compromise to keep it
that way.
Bad Habit #6: Going out more with friends than with your spouse.
Why it's bad: Sends the message that your friends are more worthy of your
time.
How to stop: Schedule nights out with your crew a few times a month, but
make sure to let your partner know in advance. It's important to have these
friendships, just as long as they don't make your married time sparse. And
it's always best that these friends are people your partner knows and
trusts, so there's less reason to worry.
Bad Habit #7: Being too close.
Why it's bad: As much as you think burping, scratching, picking, or farting
is funny or cute, it can backfire and cross the line. It may be a
reflection
of your closeness, but there should be a limit. Otherwise, you're leaving
your partner with a very unsexy image of you.
How to stop: Start a new rule. If you wouldn't do it in front of your work
friends, don't do it in front of your honey. To get your mate to refrain,
say: "I know we're close, and we can share everything, but I'd really
appreciate it if you would leave the room, or leave me out, when you do
that. It's not very sexy, and I don't want anything that makes you less
sexy
to me."
Bad Habit #8: Sharing too much with your parents or in-laws.
Why it's bad: This shows a lack of loyalty to your spouse. Your parents
shouldn't have any information that your spouse doesn't have. And they
shouldn't know anything he wouldn't want them to know.
How to stop: Be loyal to your spouse even when he's not present. If you
wouldn't say something in front of him/her, don't say it at all. You would
